At Mildmay, we strive for our children to enjoy their learning in a safe and fulfilling environment whether in the classroom or the playground.
A consistent approach when dealing with children with behavioural concerns most often leads to more productive and positive behaviours.
We have recently reviewed our policy regarding managing behaviour and discipline within the school. We hope that the following information will enable you to understand the processes that are currently taking place within school.
1. Understanding the purpose of Behaviour.
2. Behaviour Management Strategies (including strategies used within the school environment to encourage and foster positive behaviour).
3. Our school’s approach to dealing with inappropriate behaviour.
1) Understanding the Purpose of Behaviour
We need to understand the behaviour, realise that it's not appropriate regardless of the age or stage the child may be going through and help to positively influence and curb the behaviour.
Determine the Purpose for the Behaviour
Typically there are 4 reasons for inappropriate behaviour:
• Display of Inadequacy
When a child can't get your attention, they'll often act out to get it.
A child doesn't feel loved for some reason and seeks revenge for attention, they feel important when they hurt others or hurt the feelings of others.
These children need to be the 'boss'. They only feel important when they are the boss. Power struggles become numerous in these situations.
Display of Inadequacy:
These children usually have low confidence and self-esteem levels and will give up quickly thinking they can't do anything. They don't often have a sense of doing something successful.
Once you've determined the goal of the inappropriate behaviour, you are much more equipped to turn it around.
In a nutshell, here is what needs to be remembered in order to change the inappropriate behaviours:
• Always show respect, when you give respect, you'll get it -- eventually.
• Model the behaviour you want to see at all times.
• Encourage the child, boost their self-esteem, convey that they are loved and give them the attention for acting appropriately.
• Never engage in power struggles, refrain from becoming angry. Do not retaliate.
• Recognise that ALL inappropriate behaviours stem from needing attention.